Enemy Number One.... Fear!!!!!

If we need to get into the higher income group, we need to grow bigger. On the way will come situations, people, circumstances which not just scare us rather terrify us. What should we do then? The best thing that can be done is to accept that we are nervous. Let us admit that we are afraid of person or situation. Let us know that and let others know that too.
Fear most of the time is truly dangerous. It prevents us to act for what is important. We need to make us understand that its all mind game. Fear is thought process and when we learn to control our thoughts, we learn to overcome fear which ultimately effects our actions. Here are a few tricks to cope with anxiety, fear, nervousness or whatever we wanna call that demon.


1. Experts say that if we openly admit to everyone that we are afraid or we are nervous, it works wonders for us. It magically reduces our fear to bare minimal and helps in coping up with it.

2. We can tame our mind to think that the situation is trivial or audience we are gonna face are less in number or less in experience or friends who we haven't met since 15 years :)

3. Have a feeling that facing fear will make us stronger and there is no other way except to face it.

Here is a very good blog on overcoming fear that I managed to read today....

http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2008/10/03/how-to-overcome-your-fear-7-tips-from-the-last-2200-years/

4. Prayer is helpful in overcoming all types of fear. Faith and trust in God are perfect solutions to this human problem. It is a solution which helps us find serenity, peace and acceptance and strength. 5. Herbs, aromatherapy, laughter and slow deep breathing are additional ways to overcome all types of fear. Hope it helps us conquering our enemy number one!!!!!

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Comfort is death!!!!!

Well, as my thought goes....there is no straight way to head in life. Its like either you go up or you go down. Each of our mental activities, actions, habits, characters lead us to uphill or downhill in the journey. Nonetheless most of the times, it does takes efforts to move uphill and its easier, passive and comfortable for the downhill. Also, Out of 100 things that happens in our lives, 90 are due to our own creations, good or bad and its just 10 that are given to us by nature. So, most of the times our levels in life are due to us only.

In order to make sure that we are hailing upwards we should try never get into the comfort zone. We need to break our culture of becoming complacent after reaching a level decided by us. Generally after doing better than our competitors we stop making efforts to move further on. We make that level as our secured level, which I call as the 'COMFORT ZONE' and try to cling to it.

Lets get into the details of this 'COMFORT ZONE'. We start striving for being there which makes us watch out and stay away from deflection from it. There will be people who we would not like to meet or cannot meet, thoughts we cannot think, places we cannot go. Defending our zone becomes our whole sole mission. We become short of new innovative ideas, We do whatever that freezes us, numbs us to that comfort level. But, all this actually shuts down our mind, ideas and make us unknowingly lead the downhill journey.

Actually 'COMFORT ZONE' is an illusion of comfort, staying there makes us go to lower trajectory than where we are today. Reaching a certain level, being better than someone, all that cannot be our final goals. Our final goal lies in making efforts to move on further. Every time making situation better for us and for our society needs to be our only final destination. That surely will makes us the most COMFORTABLE!!!!

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HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY!!!!!! Hola Amigos!!!!!

Someone well said.."Friends are siblings God forgot to give us!!!!". The point of success of all stories is always somewhere related to the kind of friends we make or get on the way.

We all know that finally what we are depends on the kind of associations, relationships we keep. Yet I feel its easier said than done........ Sometimes these tired relationship don't release us and sometimes its very difficult to get positive associations too....

Lets work harder to get away from skeptics kind of friends who may eat up our confidence. It would be good to dynamically move on, analyzing which one to keep and which to limit contact with. Lets create rooms for newer friends and give permission to leave those who do not match our spirits.

Getting in touch with positive people, premium friendships is not easy again. They must be busy as everyone in this era of fast pace. The best way to touch base with them is to create value in their lives by giving your efforts and services.

That way may we can get access to their lives and lasting friendship too!!!Lets not make it a selfish reason of only getting something from them but by fulfilling their needs we can make a permanent bond which will nourish our lives forever.

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The lesson from my father............. surviving failure

I was a below average student..... used to get very less scores. It was always my dad always with me encouraging to try harder for better. He directed my energy by learning from past mistakes. It managed to increase my grades and also made me great at survivorship.

There is a Nike commercial,starred by Micheal Jordan where he says : "I fail over and over and over again in my life..... that is why I succeed". Have a look...... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=45mMioJ5szc

Soichiro Honda said:

Success represents the 1% of your work which results from 99% that is called failure.

Its my father who made me believe that failure is not result of the mistakes we make but it is result of how we respond to our mistakes. When we succumb to a failure our vision gets blocked and dreams get vaporised. When we live upto a failure positively our confidence level increases in dealing with any horror that may come further.

Failure can refine us when we do not allow it to define us.

Thnks dad................

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY

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Tuning Attitude.............

William James once said: "The greatest discovery of any generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering the attitude."
    What basically is attitude? Its simply the way we react to different issues of life. A positive attitude or a right attitude can make a situation more profitable or can lessen the loss as the case may be.
Our attitudes can be result of our past experiences, of people who play big or small roles in our lives or because of our particular personality. But one thing is sure guys, no one was born with an attitude. Its only with time that we develop it. Which further means we all can moniter and change our attitudes.
If we compare our lives with an agricultural land we can say the 'positive attitude' are the 'crops' we reap for our profit, and the 'weeds' are the 'negative attitude' that can cause loss to us. As we need grow more crops and remove more of weeds to maximize profit, same can be compared with our 'attitude' in life as well.

One step further......the way we make efforts to grow crops on the land to get good results and even take care of them, same is the case with 'positive attitude' in our mind. Unlike weeds which grow by default, can be compared with 'negative attitude' in mind, to which none of us are permanently immuned and most of the times comes naturally from the society. Moreover they have deep roots as well....

Likewise, we need to make efforts to process and tune our minds to 'positive' and eradicate the weeds of 'negative',. It is an ongoing process without any end for anyone of us.

This post is not just about what I think, if any one has views similar or contrary to it,you are most welcome to share............

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The Right Attitude.......

Hi guys, I am starting this blog today by posting a million dollar question that life throws at us............ 'What attitude you have towards me' ?

They say that we need to have a 'shock absorber' attitude towards life. They mean we need to remain steady in every stuff that life throws on us. The more shock resistant we are the more success we have, means directly proportional.
So, is it that having positive attitude the sure shot way to achieve success? or why we need to take attitude topic so seriously?
I have one comparative situation to show the attitude effect: Suppose there was Mr. A who is going for a job interview but  had low self esteem, visualizes that he will not get the job and on that day of interview he actually tends to make it happen as well. Another was Mr. b who was positive about getting job , was confident on the day of interview and surely again made it happen what visualized, he got the job.

I would say that having a right attitude not always gives us instant success, but surely is the foundation for the success.  Its the basic step which cannot be avoided.  Right attitude gives us right belief, that we can succeed. If we give defeat chance to enter our mind, it can convert thought process to negative, same goes well with triumph.......

Lastly, no one is immuned to negatives of life and also no one is born with positive attitude. In that case, we all can have a continuous Right Attitude learning and strengthening process in our lives. Books, associations or anything positive helps us in that.

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